Felt that sting of a wounded ego recently? Don’t worry, we all have those times where it feels like someone stabbed our heart with their words or wounded us emotionally – and there are ways of getting over it.
Here are a few tips on how to get over a wounded ego and get back to the calm and collected you.
In a world full of high expectations and people who simply don’t think before they speak. It can be easy to find yourself with a wounded ego. This can be the case even if you don’t have a big ego, as sometimes it’s the people with the smallest of egos that can get the most hurt.
How To Get Over a Wounded Ego
Words are just words
Sounds simple enough, but many of us forget this simple fact. What if the words of others were simply just words that floated through the air? Instead of mini weapons that can pierce deep into our heart and wound our ego or self-worth.
The next time you find someone’s words hurting your feelings and undermining your self-worth, think – does there opinion really matter that much? And let the words fly by you like a leaf in the breeze.
A lot of the time people can say things with no bad intention and they still hurt, especially when it’s a family member or friend. Take the words in your stride and remember that there can often be times of misinterpretation and they probably didn’t even mean it in a way that was supposed to hurt you. If you feel comfortable enough to ask them, do. If not, and they continue onto a new topic or there’s wellbeing in their tone. It might be best to realise there isn’t a bad intention there, and it could be more concern than anything else.
You Don’t Have to be the Best
A lot of the times our ego fights to be the best. Whether to you, that means getting your perfect job, looking the best or having the most lasting and loving relationship. This can be a battle that is never won and based on unrealistic expectations a lot of the time. In a world run by social media, this can be something that is almost uncontrollable, making us feel competitive and comparing ourselves to others without a second thought.
Remember that you are unique, just like everyone else. There shouldn’t be any measure of success, as a lot of the times what we do in life is down to circumstances and motivation. If you’re lucky you can make something out of that, if not you may be doing the same job your parents do – there’s nothing wrong with that. Also, everyone works through life at their own rate. A friend of yours might be earning 100,000’s of dollars a year, whilst another has stopped working to start a family – who is the best? It’s just personal perspective. Don’t strive to be better than anyone – create your own goals and work at your own pace – then nothing will be a competition in life.